#91 | Strength in Surrender: Building a Business that Feeds Your Femininity and Releasing Control with Anna Wickham
About This Episode
Anna Wickham is a life and career coach that has built her business by helping others find self-fulfillment, happiness, and joy. From working as a digital nomad in Vietnam to starting her own marketing business to finally building a career as a coach, Anna’s work has changed drastically over the past four years. It is impossible to separate Anna’s professional transformation from her journey into understanding her own femininity. In this episode, Anna opens up to Girlskill listeners to tell her story in a way she has never told it before, honoring the beautiful, tangled relationship of career and femininity.
“I spent my whole life achieving, and gaining my self-worth from that, without realizing that my self-worth comes innately from who I am.”
Join us for an inspiring talk about surrendering the power you always thought you needed, the strength that comes from taking the extra time to put on some lipstick, and the joy that can be found in doing work that feeds your feminine soul.
“Feminity is surrender and trust and just being, more than doing.”
Anna’s journey begins in Vietnam. While working as a digital nomad, Anna met two Vietnamese women who exuded femininity in a way that Anna didn’t think was possible. They looked great, felt great, and attracted men without even trying. Over the next few months, Anna learned the power of taking care of herself, putting time into her appearance and believing that she was worth the effort. When she returned to the U.S. and built a marketing business, she realized that the work she was doing was not feeding her feminine soul. She then created her coaching business and never looked back.
In this episode, Anna shares what she learned about femininity and self-worth from Vietnamese women during her time in Asia, her journey from building a business that she didn’t give a shit about to creating a business that lets her express her intuitive, creative, feminine self, and how surrendering control has helped her to find balance in work and in her relationship.
“I am successful because if I died today, I would have lived a more full life than some people who are 90 years old. I have no regrets.”
Tools & Resources Mentioned
- The Surrendered Wife by Laura Doyle – The underlying principle of The Surrendered Wife is simple: The control women wield at work and with children must be left at the front door of any marriage. Laura Doyle’s model for matrimony shows women how they can both express their needs and have them met while also respecting their husband’s choices. When they do, they revitalize intimacy.
- Girl, Wash Your Face by Rachel Hollis – As the founder of the lifestyle website TheChicSite.com and CEO of her own media company, Rachel Hollis developed an immense online community by sharing tips for better living while fearlessly revealing the messiness of her own life. Now, in this challenging and inspiring new book, Rachel exposes the twenty lies and misconceptions that too often hold us back from living joyfully and productively, lies we’ve told ourselves so often we don’t even hear them anymore.
- Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus by John Gray – The most well-know, long-lived, and tried-and-tested relationships guide ever, the phenomenal #1 New York Times bestseller Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus is now available for the first time ever as an ebook. In this classic guide to understanding the opposite sex, Dr. John Gray provides a practical and proven way for men and women to improve their communication by acknowledging the differences between their needs, desires, and behaviors. No other relationship guide on the market will give you the same level of evidence-based insight sure to help you strengthen and nurture your relationships for years to come.
- 12 Rules for Life by Jordan Peterson – What does the nervous system of the lowly lobster have to tell us about standing up straight (with our shoulders back) and about success in life? Why did ancient Egyptians worship the capacity to pay careful attention as the highest of gods? What dreadful paths do people tread when they become resentful, arrogant and vengeful? Dr. Peterson journeys broadly, discussing discipline, freedom, adventure and responsibility, distilling the world’s wisdom into 12 practical and profound rules for life. 12 Rules for Life shatters the modern commonplaces of science, faith and human nature, while transforming and ennobling the mind and spirit of its readers.
- Make Every Man Want You by Maria Forleo – Let’s make one thing clear: this book is like no other dating book you’ve read. There are no rules, no list of things to do to land a husband in thirty days, and no reason to blame yourself if “he’s just not that into you.” Please. Throw those books away. Instead, let’s focus on you–and how you can make yourself more appealing to others in almost every situation–whether you have a man or not. Think of it as a crash course in desirability, a life-changing lesson in loving yourself inside and out. Once you embrace your unique qualities and dissolve your bad relationship habits, you’ll be amazed to find how irresistible you are to others!
- Why Men Love Bitches by Sherry Argov – Do you feel like you are too nice? Sherry Argov’s Why Men Love Bitches delivers a unique perspective as to why men are attracted to a strong woman who stands up for herself. With saucy detail on every page, this no-nonsense guide reveals why a strong woman is much more desirable than a “yes woman” who routinely sacrifices herself.