#111 | Preparing for an Eloquent Barbarian Through Feminine Surrender with Diana M. Joice
About This Episode
Diana M. Joice is a writer, a tanguera, a white tigress, and a coach. She’s obsessed with intimacy, attraction, poetry, and Argentine Tango. She also calls herself a master of orgasm and while she could climax anytime anywhere since she was a young adult, it wasn’t enough. Diana confesses to having trouble being met equally in a relationship according to her own experiences of intensity and the powerful energy of intimacy. She realized that she needed a man’s worship, playfulness, and challenge as well as a sea of love and overwhelming penetration that she had to let all the way in.
Diana claims that connection, constant sexual energy, and surrendering to the masculine is what helped her go even deeper into her own sensuality, love, and femininity and prepare herself for the eloquent barbarian that she deeply craved. Today her mission is to raise the level of erotic vibes and intimacy in interactions between men and women through intimacy and sexuality coaching, retreats and workshops.
“Femininity is like water and air. It engulfs and encircles the hardness of a rock. It glides along the tip of a sword or it stays within an ocean bed… It dances with the current and allows to be inhaled, ingested, redirected. Femininity allows itself to be cut and yet the cut doesn’t harm it.”
Join us for a conversation of why deep inner work, sexual intimacy, men’s energetic penetration, and feminine surrender is what needs to happen inside first before the true masculine equal can appear in our lives. Here is what we talk about.
- Why surrender is the ultimate feminine weapon
- The importance of claiming your “dance floor” with the masculine
- The masculine/feminine polarity and how to embrace your feminine pole
- Why women need to dissolve the need to be “the train”
- Working with and not against your feminine flow
- Difference between feminine and masculine “work”
- Practical steps to embody your feminine flow
- and much more…
Tools & Resources Mentioned
People/Blogs to Follow
- Delta of Venus: Erotica by Anaïs Nin – Anais Nin pens a lush, magical world where the characters of her imagination possess the most universal of desires and exceptional of talents. Among these provocative stories, a Hungarian adventurer seduces wealthy women then vanishes with their money; a veiled woman selects strangers from a chic restaurant for private trysts; and a Parisian hatmaker named Mathilde leaves her husband for the opium dens of Peru.
- Story of O: A Novel by Pauline Reage – How far will a woman go to express her love? In this exquisite novel of passion and desire, the answer emerges through a daring exploration of the deepest bonds of sensual domination. “O” is a beautiful Parisian fashion photographer, determined to understand and prove her consuming devotion to her lover, René, through complete submission to his every whim, his every desire.
- Tao Tantric Arts for Women: Cultivating Sexual Energy, Love, and Spirit by Minke de Vos – Through the Taoist tantric arts, women can experience the full flowering of their sexual energy. Rooted in Chinese energy medicine, Universal Healing Tao practices, and ancient Taoist traditions from the Yellow Emperor and his three female advisors, these practices honor and celebrate each stage of a woman’s life and allow women to awaken their genuine feminine sexuality–receptive, soft, sensitive, intuitive, and creative–rather than the masculine approach that focuses on strength, endurance, and control.
- The Multi-Orgasmic Woman: Discover Your Full Desire, Pleasure, and Vitality by Mantak Chia and Rachel Carlton Abrams – Now any woman can dramatically increase her pleasure with this holistic guide to female sexuality that combines the sexual wisdom of the East with the best of Western medical research. The book brings together the secrets of an Eastern spiritual master, Mantak Chia, the leading teacher of Taoist sexuality, and the health knowledge of a Western physician, Rachel Carlton Abrams, MD.
- The Complete Illustrated Kama Sutra by Lance Dane – In this complete and illustrated guide Lance Dane accompanies the Kama Sutra text with 269 illustrations and great works of art that encompass coins, palm leaf manuscripts, sculptures, ancient toys, jewelry, architecture, ivory combs, birch bark, cloth, paintings, frescoes, and scrolls. Gathered from museums and private collections around the world—as well as the author’s own collection of over 300,000 photographs—these rare images clearly illustrate all 64 sexual positions and the erotic instructions set forth in the Kama Sutra. The result is a dazzling and sensuous reading experience through which the teachings of the Kama Sutra spring to life.
- Women Who Run With the Wolves: Myths and Stories of the Wild Woman Archetype by Dr. Clarissa Pinkola Estés – In her now-classic book that spent 144 weeks on the New York Times hardcover bestseller list, and is translated into 35 languages, Clarissa Pinkola Estés, Ph.D., shows how woman’s vitality can be restored through what she calls “psychic archaeological digs” into the ruins of the female unconscious. Dr. Estés uses her families’ ethnic tales, washed and rinsed in the blood of wars and survival, multicultural myths, her own lyric writing of those fairy tales, folk tales, and stories chosen from her life witness, and also research ongoing for twenty years… that help women reconnect with the healthy, instinctual, visionary attributes of the Wild Woman archetype.
- Erotism: Death and Sensuality by Georges Bataille – Taboo and sacrifice, transgression and language, death and sensuality—Georges Bataille pursues these themes with an original, often startling perspective. He challenges any single discourse on the erotic. The scope of his inquiry ranges from Emily Bronte to Sade, from St. Therese to Claude Levi-Strauss and Dr. Kinsey; and the subjects he covers include prostitution, mythical ecstasy, cruelty, and organized war. Investigating desire prior to and extending beyond the realm of sexuality, he argues that eroticism is “a psychological quest not alien to death.”
- The Art of Seduction by Robert Greene – When raised to the level of art, seduction, an indirect and subtle form of power, has toppled empires, won elections and enslaved great minds. Immerse yourself in the twenty-four maneuvers and strategies of the seductive process, the ritual by which a seducer gains mastery over his target. Understand how to “Poeticize Your Presence,” “Keep them in Suspense – What Comes Next” and “Master the Art of the Bold Move”. Every bit as essential as The 48 Laws of Power, The Art of Seduction is an indispensable primer of persuasion that reveals one of history’s greatest weapons and the ultimate form of power.
- Tao Te Ching by Lao Tzu, Laozi Zi, Lao Tsu – Lao-tzu’s Tao Te Ching, or Book of the Way, is the classic manual on the art of living, and one of the wonders of the world. In eighty-one brief chapters, the Tao Te Ching looks at the basic predicament of being alive and gives advice that imparts balance and perspective, a serene and generous spirit. This book is about wisdom in action. It teaches how to work for the good with the effortless skill that comes from being in accord with the Tao (the basic principle of the universe) and applies equally to good government and sexual love; to child rearing, business, and ecology.
- The Art of War: A New Translation by Sun Tzu – Written in the 6th century BC, Sun Tzu’s The Art of War is still used as a book of military strategy today. Napoleon, Mae Zedong, General Vo Nguyen Giap and General Douglas MacArthur all claimed to have drawn inspiration from it. And beyond the world of war, business and management gurus have also applied Sun Tzu’s ideas to office politics and corporate strategy.