#18: Transgender Truths: Male to Female Transition with Michaela Light
About This Episode
Michaela Light is the author of the Amazon Best Seller Intuitive Leadership Mastery and host of the Intuitive Leadership Mastery podcast. She lives half the year in Cusco, Peru and travels the rest of the year. She helps entrepreneurs and leaders to improve their business intuition for more profits and extra joy.
She has organized conferences for thousands of programmers, written hundreds of articles and taught 300 workshops around the world. She came out at work and in public as transgender and bisexual in 2002, and she quotes:
“Living my truth became more important to me than obeying other people’s judgments about me.”
Michaela was born in a male body but identifies as a woman. That is the real definition of being a male to female transgender, Michaela explains.
How did it feel growing up in the United Kingdom in the 60s being a boy but really feeling like a girl? How is the experience of holding a secret for more than 20 years and being afraid to “come out”? How and why did the transformation occur? How does transgender relate to sexuality? How and why one does one go through a name change? All these questions and more, Michaela Light, a “Male to Female” (or Mtf) transgender and bisexual shares with us on this episode.
Prepare for some extreme sexual language and raw conversations about identity, name changes, and sex. This episode is quite explicit, vulnerable and exciting and a conversation you don’t hear every day at your nearest cafe.
Michaela shares with us her transformation journey from cross-dressing as a boy and feeling different from all the boys around growing up. There were attempts to share her experience with friends in the classroom – only to be shut down and ridiculed. Later in life, she started attending an “honesty group” that helped her “come out” and challenged her to begin cross-dressing in public.
“But… you go back to 200 years in Europe, the men were all wearing face powder, high heels, and wigs, and some of them acted pretty feminine.”
On the podcast episode, she recalls the first time she had cross-dressed in public on her way to a meeting when her tire broke down, and she had to stop on a high… realizing that she would be now attracting men to help her out…
“Femininity is about receptiveness; attracting versus chasing, being open to things; a gentle, loving quality to it; more beauty. We get to choose far more than men choose to do in our current society.”
Michaela is bisexual and had long-term relationships with mostly women. She was open about her transgender journey. Some girlfriends were supportive, some not so much.
She’s open to sexual experiments, talks openly about BDSM and all other kinds of subjects that are considered “tabu” in certain situations.
Michael Smith was the only son in the Smith family. Michaela was challenged by her support group to “come out” in front of her parents. She had given them a booklet to read without being able to utter anything because she was nervous. She says the conversation with her parents wasn’t an easy one, but it was worth it. Luckily, Michaela’s family was understanding enough to accept and assure her of their unconditional love.
“When someone is pointing at you to judge you, they have three fingers directed towards themselves. It always comes from them, not from you.”
The moment when it was “time” to change her name from Michael Smith to Michaela Light came to her through her inner voice. She had listened to her intuition and is now undergoing a daunting process of a name change on all online and offline media platforms.
Michaela mentions that she would like to have a vagina and undergo a surgical operation, but she’s not yet convinced of the reliabilities and effectiveness of modern technologies.
Tools & Resources Mentioned
- Basecamp – Puts everything you need to get work done in one place. It’s the calm, organized way to manage projects, work with clients, and communicate company-wide.
- Speedify – A no-log VPN built from the ground up for speed and mobility. It combines all your available internet connections to improve reliability and uses the latest encryption standards to deliver over twice the performance of conventional VPNs on desktops and mobile devices.
- Arq backup – Backup your Mac or Windows PC. Super-easy. You keep control. Encrypted backup to your Amazon Drive, AWS, Dropbox, Google Drive, Google Cloud Storage, or OneDrive account.
- Crystalknows – Crystal shows you the best way to communicate with any prospect, customer, or coworker based on their unique personality.
People/Blogs to Follow
- Abraham Hicks – “Abraham” is the name given by Esther Hicks to a group of spirits (“non-physical entities”) Esther claims to channel. (The Hickses claim that in 1985 they began dialogs with Abraham, which is a “name chosen by a group of nonphysical teachers, who deliver an inspirational message of joy and well-being.
- “You can heal your life” By Louise Hay – The bestselling author is an internationally known leader in the self-help field. Her key message is: “If we are willing to do the mental work, almost anything can be healed.” The author has a great deal of experience and firsthand information to share about healing, including how she cured herself after being diagnosed with cancer.
- “The Dictator’s Handbook: Why Bad Behavior is Almost Always Good Politics” by Bruce Bueno de Mesquita – This clever and accessible book shows that the difference between tyrants and democrats is just a convenient fiction. Governments do not differ in kind but only in the number of essential supporters, or backs that need scratching. The size of this group determines almost everything about politics: what leaders can get away with, and the quality of life or misery under them. The picture the authors paint is not pretty. But it just may be the truth, which is a good starting point for anyone seeking to improve human governance.