#39 | The Science Behind Female Friendships with Naama Barnea-Goraly
About This Episode
Scientific studies show that women who have deep connections with other women have fewer illnesses, respond better to stress better and even recover better from breast cancer. We don’t even need to look at scientific research to know that there is a big difference between female and male friendships. We feel it, and we see it. Relationships are everything to us. But why is it so?
In this episode, we uncover the biological differences, especially within the brain. We talk about why women have developed the need and habit to continually be in communication while men prefer to use fewer words.
“Femininity is about taking care of others, being the glue of society in the way we interact, the way we self-disclose, the relationships we build, the way we nurture our families and our friendships.”
Naama Barnea-Goraly M.D. grew up in Israel and was trained in child and adolescent psychiatry. She had worked as an Instructor and brain researcher at Stanford University and spent most of her time investigating brain structure in disorders affecting social cognition – autism. Results of her work were published extensively in leading psychiatric and neuroscience journals, and presented at international conferences. She was the first one to discover that white matter fibres of the brain are disconnected in children with autism.
“Men friendships are shoulder to shoulder and women friendships revolve around face to face interactions and self-disclosure.”
In the course of her work she became interested in gender differences in social cognition, and the significant benefits strong friendships offer, especially for women. So she had quit the academia after 15 years and started “Telle” (pronounced “tell”), an app designed to be the easiest way to connect with your girl-tribe. Privately. Because behind every successful woman is a tribe of women who have her back.
“Women who have close connections with other women live longer and are more resilient to illness, have less colds and actually recover better from breast cancer.”
Download the Telle App here
Tools & Resources Mentioned
- Telle – Behind every happy woman is a tribe of women who have her back. Telle: the easiest way to connect with your girl tribe. Privately.
- Amazon – Online shopping from the earth’s biggest selection of books, magazines, music, DVDs, videos, electronics, computers, software, apparel & accessories, shoes, jewelry, tools & hardware, housewares, furniture, sporting goods, beauty & personal care, broadband & dsl, gourmet food & just about anything else.
- Eat24 – The Food Delivery App. Like a Food Truck in Your Pants. Make food happen wherever you are with the free Eat24 Food Delivery & Takeout App for desktop and mobile. Yelp and PayPal included. Clothing optional.
- Seemless – Online food ordering from local restaurants. Fast, easy and always FREE to use, Seamless.com has 1000s of menus for takeout or delivery. Exclusive restaurant coupons, reviews, photos, and more!
People/Blogs to Follow
- Man Repeller – Man Repeller explores the expansive constellation of things women care about from a place of openness and humor, with the conviction that an interest in fashion doesn’t minimize one’s intellect.
- The Middle Finger Project – Unconventional lifestyle and career website, Ash Ambirge is on an international mission to help the lost, the confused, the disillusioned and the “how the hell did I become an administrative assistants?” of the world become more unf*ckwithable in their work—and lives—by learning how to trust themselves unflinchingly and build a unique, modern, gloriously independent career using that great, big, free thing we call The Internet.
- Seth Godin – The author of 18 books that have been bestsellers around the world and have been translated into more than 35 languages. He writes about the post-industrial revolution, the way ideas spread, marketing, quitting, leadership and most of all, changing everything.
- “When we were orphans” by Kazuo Ishiguro – The novel takes us to Shanghai in the late 1930s, with English detective Christopher Banks bent on solving the mystery that has plagued him all his life: the disappearance of his parents when he was eight. By his own account, he is now a celebrated gentleman sleuth, the toast of London society. But as we learn, he is also a solitary figure, his career built on an obsession. Believing his parents may still be held captive, he longs to put right as an adult what he was powerless to change as a child, when he played at being Sherlock Holmes — before both his parents vanished and he was sent to England to be raised by an aunt.
- “My Brilliant Friend: Neapolitan Novels, Book One” by Elena Ferrante – Against the backdrop of a Naples that is as seductive as it is perilous and a world undergoing epochal change, Elena Ferrante tells the story of a sixty-year friendship between the brilliant and bookish Elena and the fiery, rebellious Lila with unmatched honesty and brilliance.
- “The Essential Difference: Male And Female Brains And The Truth About Autism” by Simon Baron-Cohen – In The Essential Difference, leading psychologist Simon Baron-Cohen confirms what most of us had suspected all along: that male and female brains are different. This groundbreaking and controversial study reveals the scientific evidence (present even in one-day-old babies) that proves that female-type brains are better at empathizing and communicating, while male brains are stronger at understanding and building systems-not just computers and machinery, but abstract systems such as politics and music. Most revolutionary of all, The Essential Difference also puts forward the compelling new theory that autism (and its close relative, Asperger’s Syndrome) is actually an example of the extreme male brain.